Obviously, we are skipping days here with the 30 Days of Gratitude Challenge, but I am going to keep them in order, and not skip any of the questions. I don’t want to skimp out on the gratitude!
7. What memory are you grateful for?
A: The majority of the memories I am grateful for are ones involving those who are no longer with me, and timing on this couldn’t be more perfect. Yesterday would have been my mom’s 56th birthday. She passed away almost 10 years ago. While I was 26 at the time and an adult, I was still very young, she was very young, it was sudden, and I was devastated. So obviously, the memories of time with my mom are so precious to me.
She didn’t get to see my brother get married, or meet her grandchildren, and those voids pain me. But she was able to be with me to pick my wedding dress, she saw me graduate, she helped me move across country… she was with me through a lot of important things. While there were many memories that I wish I could forget in regards to her personal struggles, I choose to only use those as a lesson and focus on the good things.
- I remember singing Journey songs, and “Dust in the Wind” and “Carry on Wayward Son” by Kansas with my mom, and I remember how she used to love it when I sang “Angel” by Sarah McLachlan.
- I remember how she cussed like a sailor and had an amazing sense of humor.
- I remember my mom making me pot roast whenever she’d stay at my house, or when I’d visit her, because she knew it was my favorite.
- My mom was very particular about her hair. She didn’t like anyone to touch it, and it always had to be perfect. Thankfully she moved out of her helmet hair stage and into a more modern look in her last few years. That perm stuck around for far too long!
- I love how my mom loved children. I specifically remember being a pre-teen and being very annoyed with the younger kids around me. My mom really put things into perspective when she said, “Remember, you were a child once.” I still think of that to this day. Holding a child, even one she didn’t know, could immediately move her to tears.
I miss my mom dearly, but I have so many great memories of her that I am grateful for. Her smile is so vivid in my mind, and I know in my heart that her love for my brother and me will never fade, no matter how long she has been gone.